Just like how LGBT-themed books are becoming more and more common, manga centered on the subject have started popping up in the anime/manga industry, with varying degrees of success in regards to how they portray LGBT themes and issues. Some, such as Yuhki Kamatani's Shimanami Tasogare: Our Dreams At Dusk, drawn by an actual non-binary mangaka, explore every possible facet of what it means to be a part of the LGBT spectrum, from finding accepting communities to dealing with the various types of homophobia with nuance and sensitivity. Others, like Kaito's Blue Flag, while well-meaning in its own way, tend to miss the mark on
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certain things with their superficial treatment of the issues they try to address. I first heard about Love Me For Who I Am, aka Fukakai na Boku no Subete o, through someone mentioning it in passing on TVTropes (For clarification, I don't have an account there. I just lurk whenever I feel like it). Curious, I decided to check it out, and as of this writing, all five volumes have been scanlated, and I've read the entire thing, with intent to buy the rest of the volumes that Seven Seas hasn't put out yet. So what do I think of the manga? Well, I do like it, but there are some things that prevent it from being truly great. And for any trolls wondering, no, it is absolutely NOT the fact that it actually tries to seriously tackle LGBT issues and take its premise seriously. I don't know why people consider that to be a problem, as I'm going to clear the air right now: This isn't a fetishy trap manga meant to titillate people. It's an actual manga that makes it very clear that it's going to explore LGBT issues, and anyone who tries to claim that the manga is somehow "pushing an SJW agenda" or is claiming stuff like this should never be in a manga or are pissy about not having their fetishy trap hentai can go piss off.
If that's the case, what is Love Me For Who I Am about? The story begins when a young boy, Tetsu Iwaoka, accidentally sees a classmate of his, Ryuunosuke Mogumo, tying a wishing tag to a tree. He happens to see the tag's contents and finds that Mogumo, who dresses effeminately for reasons Tetsu doesn't know, wishes for friends who accept them for who they are. Tetsu thinks he has just the thing, and invites Mogumo to work at a cafe that his sister runs. But when Mogumo gets to the cafe, a problem arises. The cafe in question is a crossdressing maid cafe, where boys wear maid outfits, and Mogumo doesn't identify as either male or female. Through trial and error, Mogumo gets to know and befriend everyone at the cafe, eventually carving out a place for themselves there, maybe finally finding the acceptance they've always wanted. But the world isn't very understanding towards people like Mogumo, and when certain people from Mogumo's past threaten to uproot everything they worked so hard for, the people at the cafe intend to do all they can to support their friend.
Now, a little background: Kata Konayama started off as a hentai doujin artist, which isn't particularly uncommon among up and coming mangaka, and one of the doujinshi he penned, Kimi Dake no Ponytail, was conceived as a prequel to this. So technically, this is Konayama's official debut as a mainstream mangaka and a sequel to one of his early doujinshi. On a technical level, Konayama's art is fine. Backgrounds are reasonably detailed but not overly so, the linework is clean, the panel layout is good, and I gotta say, Konayama has a real knack for facial expressions. But one thing I can see people having a problem with is that the character designs lean very heavily towards the moe aesthetic, with the employees at the cafe looking like cute little ten-year-old girls even though many of them are boys (With two exceptions, Mei and Mogumo) and are teenagers at the oldest. Most anime/manga fans I know aren't too big on cutesy moe character designs because of their somewhat fetishistic nature, which is fine, but in case anyone is wondering, there's no fanservice or characters being sexualized or put in compromising positions here (Thank God!), so you can rest assured on that one.
The characters, I admit, I'm conflicted on. On one hand, the author does try to give Tetsu, Mogumo, Kotone, and others decent development throughout the manga, which is good. But a lot of their development is tied to their sexual orientations, and while we do get to see some tidbits of their personalities on occasion, a good chunk of the manga is spent with them dealing with their own issues related to their identities, which can make them feel like they came out of an after school special at times. What I mean is, after reading the manga, ask yourself these questions: Who are they? What drives them? What are their interests outside of wearing their favorite outfits and learning about their sexual orientations/identities? Much of the manga focuses on the characters trying to come to terms with themselves, which is fine, but other than a few small things, it feels like the characters are solely defined by their orientation. Plus, other characters, such as Suzu and Ten-chan, don't get much in the way of development at all, and mostly have one or two personality traits at most. They're not bad or anything, but this cast of characters feels rather bland like wheat toast. It doesn't help that they don't exactly leave a good first impression at the start. I've seen a lot of people take issue over Mogumo getting upset over being misgendered by people who didn't know them and their circumstances right away, decrying them and their struggles as just being a whiny, entitled brat throwing a tantrum. I personally didn't mind Mogumo reacting the way they did in the first chapter, as I assumed it was the culmination of them just getting sick and tired of being misgendered but not knowing how to really explain it in a calmer manner. I mean, they're teenagers. Would you really expect teenagers to talk to each other calmly about these kinds of issues? Plus, Tetsu doesn't have much character other than being nice and an ally to others on the LGBT spectrum, and I really didn't like Kotone. I hate it when characters fall into the "I'm jealous of this random person and bully them because they have the nerve to talk to my friend/crush/whatever" trope, as it's old, boring, and really needs to die, though the manga does give her reasons for being that way.
Plus, there's something else I find myself confused about as well. Seven Seas constantly mentions Mogumo being non-binary in their blurbs for the manga, and Mogumo doesn't identify as either male or female. I have to ask: Does Mogumo even know that the term non-binary even exists? There's no indication that Mogumo knows that there's even a word for what they are. I think the manga really could have benefitted from Mogumo learning more about what it means to be non-binary and finding others like them. Furthermore, the manga doesn't always nail the occasional mood shifts between its various chapters. Some chapters can go from happy-go-lucky to piling on angst and drama at the flip of a coin, and it can feel rather jarring. Mogumo is also given a needlessly heavy-handed, angsty backstory—though it may be true to life for some who actually experienced something similar IRL—but Konayama really could have tried to put in more effort to make the drama more subtle. Also, the manga is weirdly short too, only clocking in at five volumes and ending rather abruptly. I don't know if this is because Konayama wasn't allowed to do more with it or if they chose to end it on their own terms or what have you. I would have liked to have read more. But for the most part, other than some needless angst, the manga does make an earnest effort to tackle LGBT issues in a sensitive, tasteful light and promote understanding and acceptance, even if the ending is cheesy as all hell.
While not the absolute best LGBT manga out there, Love Me For Who I Am is still one of the better ones out there, even if it stumbles along the way.
Alternative TitlesSynonyms: FukaBoku, Love me for What I am. Japanese: 不可解なぼくのすべてを More titlesInformationType: Manga
Volumes: 5
Chapters: 28
Status: Finished
Published: Jun 1, 2018 to Mar 5, 2021
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Just like how LGBT-themed books are becoming more and more common, manga centered on the subject have started popping up in the anime/manga industry, with varying degrees of success in regards to how they portray LGBT themes and issues. Some, such as Yuhki Kamatani's Shimanami Tasogare: Our Dreams At Dusk, drawn by an actual non-binary mangaka, explore every possible facet of what it means to be a part of the LGBT spectrum, from finding accepting communities to dealing with the various types of homophobia with nuance and sensitivity. Others, like Kaito's Blue Flag, while well-meaning in its own way, tend to miss the mark on
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Nov 3, 2019
Despite its cutesy look and initial premise of an otokonoko café, "Fukakai na Boku no Subete wo" isn't a fetishist manga for people who're into femboys, but rather something that I'd call CGDCT (Cute Gays Doing Cute Things), had it not been for the male self-insert.
The thing is, it focuses on the reasons why are the employees of the said café working there - or rather, what are their experiences with their own identities. It's a thoroughly LGBT work, reminiscent of Shimanami Tasogare in its setup, but very different in almost every other aspect. Unlike its artsy cousin, FukaBoku's aesthetic is extremely moe, its narrative ... Jul 2, 2020
Read this if you are looking for: A cute, fluffy exploration of gender that emphasizes understanding and acceptance.
Recommendation: Pick it up! "Love Me For Who I Am" follows high school boy Tetsu and his nonbinary classmate Mogumo. As Mogumo yearns for acceptance and understanding, Tetsu invites them to work at his family's untraditional maid cafe, staffed by a variety of LGBT+ characters. Through 3+ volumes, a reliable pattern of storytelling emerges: characters will have a disagreement or conflict centered on or adjacent to gender or sexuality, often with one side initially portrayed as the villain. These characters become more sympathetic as their backgrounds and thought processes are ... Apr 20, 2021
Love Me For Who I Am (I'm gonna refer to it as FukaBoku for the rest of this review) is a manga written and illustrated by Kata Konayama. It was serialized on the manga website COMIC MeDu from 2018 to 2021, with a total of 5 volumes. I'm only reviewing volumes 1-3, as that's all that Seven Seas has currently released in English.
Story: 9/10 Like a lot of slice of life series, their isn't a lot going on in the series. For the most part it's lighthearted comedy between the characters as they work at the maid cafe. Their is also some romance between Mogumo and ... Jun 21, 2024
An absolutely (almost) flawless story about an LGBTQ+ person and people.
It is flawless in how it treats its characters like actual people, and does not fetishize them like some half of the industry does with those in the LGBTQ+, by having 0 fanservice within its pages. It even treats those who do not yet identify and don't identify as LGBTQ+, as characters with reasons for why they act the way they do. The story is pretty straight forward, so it will not be bloated with filler. However, whether intentional or not,the characters are very one note, where one thing explains another, and that's that. It does make ... Aug 20, 2022
I don't know how I found out about this manga. It was here on MyAnimeList and just now it appeared. The synopsis caught my attention for being rare, I like rare series and I ended up reading it.
As such it was not a bad manga. Many problems of identity of the characters that are resolved little by little, in the end everyone is happy. I don't regret reading it, but I still can't remember the reason why I decided to read it, it's not that I like this genre, it was just the weird synopsis. In the end I thought: "What did I just read?", but I don't ... Oct 27, 2024
Love Me For Who I Am – Spoiler Free – Recommended
TLDR Story – 6/10 – 6 x 0.275 = 1,65 Art – 5/10 – 5 x 0.2 = 1 Characters – 8/10 – 8 x 0.225 = 1,8 Enjoyment – 6,5/10 – 6,5 x 0.3 = 1,95 Total: 6,4 -> 6 Story – 6/10 Love Me for Who I Am is more than just a love story and more than just a LGBTQ+ tale. There is romance, but it is quickly elapsed by the more pressing matter of sexuality and gender identity, whether through the main or secondary characters. Truly, what we have here is a story about the overcoming of ... Oct 18, 2021
As someone who is non-binary I can understand what is going on and the struggles of the main character. While it's not the most realistic setting the characters and the reactions are very realistic. On the surface it may just look like a cute gender bend manga, but the truth is that it goes in to some really deep stuff that will make you want to cry and understand what people are going through.unlike a lot of queer manga they don't romanticize or fetishize it. Each of the characters are interesting and they are all flawed. It gets hard to read at times because of
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Aug 5, 2022
Story: 7
The story begins with a mellow, non-serious tone regarding sex, gender identity, and sexuality. There are a range of characters that show parts of the LGBTQ population, including gay, lesbian, transwoman, transman, nonbinary, etc. Starting from the "ladyboy" café, the manga eventually delves deeper into Mogumo's family situation. That is when things get darker, perhaps too dark too quickly for this mostly light-hearted manga. It is a start for those who do not understand much about the LGBTQ community, but not the manga that delves deeper into the issues that people of the LGBTQ population face from all aspects of society and different kinds ... Sep 3, 2021
Love Me for Who I Am is a manga wherein queer characters question and explore their gender identities and sexualities in a cute, light story.
[At time of writing this, the 5th volume of Love Me for Who I Am has not been released in the U.S. so I have only read through vol. 4.] As a fan of queer anime and manga (being a queer person myself), I was shocked to find out about a manga with a non-binary protagonist--let alone a character the author actually names as such. Knowing very little about the title, I decided to pick it up and make up my ... Jan 9, 2025
Love Me For Who I Am is, first and foremost, the cutest shit I've ever seen. The art is soft and expressive, equally good at bringing out the emotion in a character's face as it is deforming them into a cartoony blob. The writing is much the same, with likeable characters and endearing, slice of life/maid cafe shenanigans. The marriage between art and writing is best exemplified in the frequent Outfit Porn the manga indulges in. To the audience, it's a chance to showcase cute clothes worn by equally cute boys, girls, and not-boys-or-girls. To the characters, they're an avenue of expression, freedom, and an
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Apr 19, 2022
Love Me For Who I Am, a manga that tackles a tough group of sensitive topics. It shows the lives of several high schoolers undergoing issues in their romantic situations, their sexualities and gender, and the overall umbrella of LGBT+ (LGBTQ+/ LGBTQI+, etc) in school. One of few these days that are of any quality as well, and what I can commend to this is at least the arts’ really pretty. If what you’re looking for is a good review, this isn’t going to be a good one, nor a proper one. And look, I’ll cut to the chase and say that despite my rating,
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Mar 5, 2021
Love Me for Who I am is a series that treats its characters as devices to the identities that they identify as rather than letting them breathe as characters with any level of independence from whatever point the story wants to make. All discussion surrounding gender and the various identities the character have are cloaked in a level of discourse more befitting the angst you'd find off people whining about non-issues on Twitter instead of given any level of nuance - any character that in any way likes another character for a reason the narrative sees as negative is portrayed in a shallow, stereotypical light
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