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Aug 14, 2023 8:08 PM
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Don't get me wrong. I too hate Kaya, but I'm sure the true horrible people here is the mother. Kaya's horrible too, but that's because her mother was the one teaching her daughter to bully Miyo, let her see the mother's abusive behavior since she was a kid, and taught her that she's the perfect girl. She's basically brainwashed by her mother.

(Iirc she seems neutral toward Miyo when she was a kid? If that's the case, pretty sure that would strengthen my argument)

I think if her mother was a good person, she wouldn't have turned out this way. Like mother, like daughter as they said. I hate to say this, but I somewhat sympathize with Kaya, but ofc that does not justify what she did at all.
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i hope so, that btch definetly do that
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The end result is still the same, she's an awful person in the the story, whether it's technically her fault or not. 
If you reply back to me and I never respond, I lost interest and don't care. Sorry about that.
Aug 14, 2023 8:24 PM
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like mother, like daughter. That entire household is a trash. The Saimori family and the environment around her made her grown up like this.
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Aug 14, 2023 8:25 PM
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LostSpectre said:
The end result is still the same, she's an awful person in the the story, whether it's technically her fault or not. 

True. My point here is what I believe is the reason for her being an awful person.
Aug 14, 2023 8:29 PM
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brainwashed or not cause she had choices. Either she becomes a bully or she doesn't bully her sister at all and let her sister on her own. She is terrible in general
Aug 14, 2023 8:31 PM
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brainwashed or not cause she had choices. Either she becomes a bully or she doesn't bully her sister at all and let her sister on her own. She is terrible in general
Sorry, but that's far too shortsighted of a viewpoint when it comes to an impressionable child being manipulated by evil parents. 
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Aug 14, 2023 8:38 PM
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Icywisy said:
brainwashed or not cause she had choices. Either she becomes a bully or she doesn't bully her sister at all and let her sister on her own. She is terrible in general

You are correct that she had choices. I mean that her mother played a part in building her character. That's why I said that it doesn't justify what she did at all, because she had choices.
Aug 14, 2023 8:48 PM
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LostSpectre said:
Icywisy said:
brainwashed or not cause she had choices. Either she becomes a bully or she doesn't bully her sister at all and let her sister on her own. She is terrible in general
Sorry, but that's far too shortsighted of a viewpoint when it comes to an impressionable child being manipulated by evil parents. 

meh, I agree she was manipulated for the bullying by her mother but can't agree if she was not manipulated for the bullying, she won't bully her. Cause just how she treats kouji". Kaya and kouji's relation is not like fiance it's more like boss and worker. And she even let kouji go for another man. Ofc her mother didn't teach her that. She did that on her own. that's why I said she was a bad person in general
Aug 14, 2023 9:39 PM
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It's obvious that your surroundings shape you as a person while growing up . Both her father and mother displayed toxic traits which greatly influenced her personality.....
But the reason why i don't forgive her for now is because she doesn't know her limits , if she does understands this in the future and begins to empathize miyo i might forgive her a bit
Aug 14, 2023 9:40 PM

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I think u guys are going way too far tbh. I don't think she's being manipulated at all, she's just like her mother and father, that's it, they're both trash and so is she. It was pretty clear from the way she truly believes she's better than Miyo and deserved a better husband.

Miyo is different because she didn't grow up with people pampering her and she inherited her kindness from her mother, who was completely different from these two.

What I'm trying to say is: Kaya was not brainwashed, it's just her personality. The moment she discovered that she had something her sister didn't, and saw that everyone pampered her for it, she began to feel superior. Just as her mother felt superior to Miyo's mother (because she thought that Miyo's mother failed even to pass on supernatural abilities to her own daughter).
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LostSpectre said:
Icywisy said:
brainwashed or not cause she had choices. Either she becomes a bully or she doesn't bully her sister at all and let her sister on her own. She is terrible in general
Sorry, but that's far too shortsighted of a viewpoint when it comes to an impressionable child being manipulated by evil parents. 

Not really … I have known household like this, everyone has a choice on how to treat their family
Note: I don’t lazily watch 3-5 episodes, biasedly compare to other anime, or unfairly judge by surface level similarities. With every anime I start, I watch the entire series, both Japanese Sub & English Dub, then judge each anime based on what they present, to give an honest and fair rating.

Aug 14, 2023 11:35 PM
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meghwan said:
I think u guys are going way too far tbh. I don't think she's being manipulated at all, she's just like her mother and father, that's it, they're both trash and so is she. It was pretty clear from the way she truly believes she's better than Miyo and deserved a better husband.

Miyo is different because she didn't grow up with people pampering her and she inherited her kindness from her mother, who was completely different from these two.

What I'm trying to say is: Kaya was not brainwashed, it's just her personality. The moment she discovered that she had something her sister didn't, and saw that everyone pampered her for it, she began to feel superior. Just as her mother felt superior to Miyo's mother (because she thought that Miyo's mother failed even to pass on supernatural abilities to her own daughter).

Didn't her mom teach her that she should be better than Miyo on everything?
Aug 14, 2023 11:49 PM

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RealNath said:
meghwan said:
I think u guys are going way too far tbh. I don't think she's being manipulated at all, she's just like her mother and father, that's it, they're both trash and so is she. It was pretty clear from the way she truly believes she's better than Miyo and deserved a better husband.

Miyo is different because she didn't grow up with people pampering her and she inherited her kindness from her mother, who was completely different from these two.

What I'm trying to say is: Kaya was not brainwashed, it's just her personality. The moment she discovered that she had something her sister didn't, and saw that everyone pampered her for it, she began to feel superior. Just as her mother felt superior to Miyo's mother (because she thought that Miyo's mother failed even to pass on supernatural abilities to her own daughter).

Didn't her mom teach her that she should be better than Miyo on everything?

Her parents didn't "teach" her, they told her she was already better than Miyo. Ever since they were kids, people only cared about Kaya because she was the only one with paranormal abilities, that's where her ego came from. She felt comfortable being the pampered one and that's why she started to bully Miyo, it's just her twisted personality just like her parents.
Aug 15, 2023 12:15 AM
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If that’s true then there is no bad person in the entire wrld
Aug 15, 2023 12:22 AM

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The point is that every Homo sapiens has a brain to know what is right and wrong to do.
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Aug 15, 2023 1:36 AM
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Children are just like water in just what form you want them to be, they will get in that shape.

So, in the end to put it simply her stepmom was cruel toward our female mc so she also taught the same thing to her daughter (step-sis of female mc) from the childhood that she is superior to our female mc in everything and she is a slave and shit like that.
Aug 15, 2023 3:34 AM
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In the novel they touch on this through Kiyoka’s internal monologue and he says to himself that she became so twisted because her parents ingrained the entitlement in her and he even feels a little sorry for her. But he can’t forgive her for what she had done even if she was raised to be deluded.
Aug 15, 2023 3:37 AM
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RealNath said:
Don't get me wrong. I too hate Kaya, but I'm sure the true horrible people here is the mother. Kaya's horrible too, but that's because her mother was the one teaching her daughter to bully Miyo, let her see the mother's abusive behavior since she was a kid, and taught her that she's the perfect girl. She's basically brainwashed by her mother.

(Iirc she seems neutral toward Miyo when she was a kid? If that's the case, pretty sure that would strengthen my argument)

I think if her mother was a good person, she wouldn't have turned out this way. Like mother, like daughter as they said. I hate to say this, but I somewhat sympathize with Kaya, but ofc that does not justify what she did at all.

isnt that kinda how parenting works?
Aug 15, 2023 4:14 AM
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If that’s true then there is no bad person in the entire wrld

Nope , people like us who have knowledge to decide what's wrong and right , if we do anything wrong then there shouldn't be any kind of pity on us but for those who are brainwashed like Kaya and never got taught how to decide wrong or right then they deserve punishment but pity too
Aug 15, 2023 5:13 AM
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They say that children will often follow their parents footsteps, Kaya is not an exception. It’s greatly due to her mother and stepfather and the environment she was grown up in to end up like this to have such a sense of entitlement and a thinking that she’s superior to Miyo.

TLDR: Shitty parents/parenting + terrible environment = despicable child.



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Aug 15, 2023 5:20 AM
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RealNath said:
Don't get me wrong. I too hate Kaya, but I'm sure the true horrible people here is the mother. Kaya's horrible too, but that's because her mother was the one teaching her daughter to bully Miyo, let her see the mother's abusive behavior since she was a kid, and taught her that she's the perfect girl. She's basically brainwashed by her mother.

(Iirc she seems neutral toward Miyo when she was a kid? If that's the case, pretty sure that would strengthen my argument)

I think if her mother was a good person, she wouldn't have turned out this way. Like mother, like daughter as they said. I hate to say this, but I somewhat sympathize with Kaya, but ofc that does not justify what she did at all.

All kids start off neutral and their behavior is learned. She learned to be abusive to Miyo and wanted to please her mother like any child would. But .. she’s grown now so she can’t blame it on her mother anymore. She needs to grow up and stop acting like a spoiled brat.
Aug 15, 2023 5:34 AM

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I don't think so, like mother, like daughter. they don't want happiness to miyo! 

Aug 15, 2023 7:37 AM
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I strongly agree. People seem to be falsely equating explanations with excuses. I can hate Kaya for her actions, but that doesn’t take away the empathy I have for her situation. Of course she’s going to be a monster from growing up being constantly told that she’s superior in every way. And why should she question it? Everything and everyone in her environment has validated that ideology since the moment she was born until now (and she’s 16, still a relatively young age). Not to mention she witnessed extreme violence towards her sister from a very young age. Kaya was encouraged to be violent and degrade Miyo. The parents enabled that. Saying Kaya should know right from wrong is ignoring all the nuances of the situation. Both of the girls have been used based on their value as political pawns, only now their value has switched for the first time.
I still wanted Kaya removed from the census by the end of the episode, but it did make me pause to consider how much of her is a product of her environment.
Aug 15, 2023 8:30 AM
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Somebody has to play the role of the evil step sister for the plot to move forward


In the scene where both Miyo and Kaya were children I could sense no bad intent from Kaya.

Due to seeing both her parents value her more and harass miyo on a daily basis she also picked up that behaviour and still thinks that she is superior and always right because she has never faced defeat or agony in any way especially with her sibling.

In the future ep I suppose maybe her behaviour or personality could change and she could come to terms with Miyo accepting her as a sister.

If not for the parents Kaya and Miyo Would share a normal sibling relationship
Aug 15, 2023 12:43 PM
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And Kayla’s mother was raised by her own parents and influenced by her surroundings and inevitable life experiences.

There’s no end to this.

It’s why we need to blame people where blame is due. Either that, or blame existence itself.

Aug 15, 2023 8:20 PM
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I think you're right because Kaya knows how she's been treated since her childhood. As a child, she never believed her mother was the one who was wrong, so she probably thought that Miyo is undeserving of love. And parents are the first teachers of a child, so she started behaving the same way with Miyo as her mother.
Aug 15, 2023 10:26 PM
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it's true, however we can't deny that the father has great part in allowing her to mistreat her sister and brainwashing her to believe she's better and more deserving than her sister
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RealNath said:
Don't get me wrong. I too hate Kaya, but I'm sure the true horrible people here is the mother. Kaya's horrible too, but that's because her mother was the one teaching her daughter to bully Miyo, let her see the mother's abusive behavior since she was a kid, and taught her that she's the perfect girl. She's basically brainwashed by her mother.

(Iirc she seems neutral toward Miyo when she was a kid? If that's the case, pretty sure that would strengthen my argument)

I think if her mother was a good person, she wouldn't have turned out this way. Like mother, like daughter as they said. I hate to say this, but I somewhat sympathize with Kaya, but ofc that does not justify what she did at all.

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She’s very young it could be true
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RealNath said:
Don't get me wrong. I too hate Kaya, but I'm sure the true horrible people here is the mother. Kaya's horrible too, but that's because her mother was the one teaching her daughter to bully Miyo, let her see the mother's abusive behavior since she was a kid, and taught her that she's the perfect girl. She's basically brainwashed by her mother.

(Iirc she seems neutral toward Miyo when she was a kid? If that's the case, pretty sure that would strengthen my argument)

I think if her mother was a good person, she wouldn't have turned out this way. Like mother, like daughter as they said. I hate to say this, but I somewhat sympathize with Kaya, but ofc that does not justify what she did at all.

By brainwashed, do you mean “raised that way”
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Sorry, but that's far too shortsighted of a viewpoint when it comes to an impressionable child being manipulated by evil parents. 

meh, I agree she was manipulated for the bullying by her mother but can't agree if she was not manipulated for the bullying, she won't bully her. Cause just how she treats kouji". Kaya and kouji's relation is not like fiance it's more like boss and worker. And she even let kouji go for another man. Ofc her mother didn't teach her that. She did that on her own. that's why I said she was a bad person in general
You didn't really say anything disproving my comment. 
If you reply back to me and I never respond, I lost interest and don't care. Sorry about that.
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It's also the "society's fault" here. Would you still condemn Kaya's mother then?
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I believe the world is not black and white but gray.
I believe a person has free will to act as such person feels and thinks.
I believe Kanoko raised her daughter Kaya to be the way she is.
I believe Kaya is not a victim and even she can redeem herself if she acts according to.
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Aug 16, 2023 6:15 PM

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Kaya is such a wasted potential man, she could be a cute tsundere full of character development, but now she's just an irredeemable piece of shit.
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LostSpectre said:
Icywisy said:

meh, I agree she was manipulated for the bullying by her mother but can't agree if she was not manipulated for the bullying, she won't bully her. Cause just how she treats kouji". Kaya and kouji's relation is not like fiance it's more like boss and worker. And she even let kouji go for another man. Ofc her mother didn't teach her that. She did that on her own. that's why I said she was a bad person in general
You didn't really say anything disproving my comment. 

and that's why it took u 3 days to reply to my comment. I came here to prove she has choices and terrible in general and proved. And if u still reply I take that u didn't understand my comment at all ^^
Aug 17, 2023 11:51 AM

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By their father as well, they were both evil and greedy.
It's not that I dislike this genre but... to add unnecessary fan services to/in/for heroines
and ultimately destroys her character and personality; their purity tarnished because of it,
is the only thing I hope to not happen to them. For that sole purity is my fan service.
Aug 27, 2023 2:27 PM

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That's not really brainwashing, but her upbringing. She was spoiled entire life and never had to work for anything. It's completely natural.

Aug 30, 2023 12:44 AM

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We can understand where she's coming from, but unless she takes steps to rectify her past mistakes, I couldn't care less about her. She doesn't even have any redeeming qualities or entertaining aspect to balance out her hateful and comically evil personality.
Aug 30, 2023 2:21 AM

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I believe Kaya still can redeem herself.

What's interesting is that in the manga during the storehouse scene, Kaya is completely passive and she doesn't lay a finger on Miyo. It's the stepmother who beats and chokes Miyo to unconsciousness. Of course, Kaya fully supports her mother's actions there, but that scene in the manga clearly demonstrates who's the leading party.

I don't know if this scene plays out the same way in the novel, though.
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It’s not just her mom, even her dad did the same as well. However I still believe that Kaya can redeem herself and I’m certain about it.

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