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Well, is somewhat early but best wishes for you on this new for coming 2016.

Akemashite omedetō gozaimasu !!

So we almost reach this once in time for a year when people thinks on Xmas, for you and family, on this future Hollidays:


Take care!

Than you can maintain the calid light high so could be rainy somewhat pretty coloured bows will be born!!

Whoah! so due my electricity problems - suffering a short circuit at home - I couldn't celebrate with my MAL friends, somehow late but Happy Halloween! Here is more an Ancestor's Respect Fest, but you know USA contamination - not take negative -, but meanwhile childs were happy, I too, so I was building some decay teeth ':D Take care my Grim guy!!

HAPPY NEW 2015!!

I hope this New Year come plenty of goods and good desires to you!!

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Merry christmas •*´¨`*•.¸¸.•*´¨`*•.¸¸.•*´¨`*•.¸¸.•*´¨`*•.¸¸.• !!

Hang in there man!

I dropped by here to say Hi, again!

How are these grey days? I Hope better.

Take care.

Yea, it's a shame really. The geographical distance means it's hard for us to do anything more than a Skype video chat :(

The incidence of social phobia in a person's lifetime is about 10%, so you might be surprised to find out that 1 in 10 random people you see on the streets thought that (at least in some points of their lives) that they either cannot tolerate people, or feel that they can never form meaningful relationships. In psychology there is a concept called operant conditioning, I think these two links would be useful if you want to understand more about that. No matter what you say, I stand by my impression that you're an interesting person. Understand that the continued avoidance-hopelessness is a self-sustaining negative feedback cycle. Don't lose hope, if you need help or someone to speak to, I'm here for you.

Being in a town like that does sound like inconvenience :(
You could try hanging around outside town, but I suppose that's going to quite difficult when there isn't an exact destination in mind. Is it very inconvenient for you to make trips to more lively places? Or is it more like a 20min bicycle thing?

Haha, being mute for a few months every time I had to move used to annoy me a lot. You've had experience with second languages, so you'll know what I mean when I say not even being able to say "I need to go to the bathroom" is extremely frustrating. As for getting the girls, the anime cliché is only sometimes true. In Asia being a mysterious genius English speaking transfer student would be the hottest thing on the block, but in Western countries it was really hit or miss. Come to think about it though, anime did come from Asia!

Contrary to what you might think, a lot of friendship building I had was very bumpy. Essentially I had to learn how to socialize not through having long term friends, but through observing what other people did with their long term friends. A lot of the conclusions I initially came to were really not true at all, and the reality is far less “perfect”, daunting and complicated than I suspected. I think I can at least partially understand the kind of troubles you had/have, and the mental barrier between people even in close proximity is a very real thing. I used to think I was strange for not being able to just go to a random place and connect with strangers, but after asking around, I realized even those who I thought were the most outgoing can’t do it. You’re really overstating what it takes to maintain a healthy relationship with other people! A bit of honesty and mutual respect is all you really need.

That’s one of the reasons I don’t read LNs. It’s always incomplete, and I hate reading stories I can’t finish. I really need to find someone who can speak Japanese and likes LNs to read them all to/for me…

I’m actually in third year out of 6; we must go to university one year earlier than Poland then. But then we finish at the same time, so unfair… Don’t even get me started on Australia weather. It is summer (not even the hottest yet) in Brisbane right now, and I’m surprised I haven’t died from sunstroke. Lucky I’m going on holidays soon, so I get to skip this hell. In winter it’s really warm and in summer it absolutely burns you. Brisbane is melanoma central in the world; I hope I don’t die of skin cancer… I think you’re right about the rain thing; it hardly rains here compared to some other places I’ve lived in.

You’re right when you say I’m into more serious series. I absolutely enjoy the most depressive, psychological and philosophical works. Anime (or any fiction) without romance is quite rare these days, I don’t think I know any series without at least implied romance. I think Jinrui wa Suitai Shimashita and Haibane Renmei are two generally lighter series mostly without romantic elements. The latter can get a bit sad at times though. Now that I scroll through my list, I realize that just about all of them had at least some really sad scenes. Either I haven’t been recommended anything super happy, or the Japanese are such melodramatic people.

I appreciate your words like a prize, thanks and it was said like a "greetings", so the more people not is ever optimistic, we the more too are introspective so melancholic when times ordered the mood ;D

Back in the day before I moved to live in an apartment, children would come asking for candy even when I locked the gate to our garden and closed the lights... They would literally climb in, ask for candy, then climb out from the fence. I'm surprised people go around asking strangers for candy too, especially when some primary school children do it without a guardian. A lot of people I know go with their kids and force them to throw away all the candy that's not wrapped because there have been cases of people poisoning them.

You do have friends! For one, I'm your friend right? I hope D:

It's only cliched to a normal person because deep down everyone wants it. I don't think there's a single person in this world who doesn't desire mutual love and affirmation. For a lot of people, they spend their entire lives looking for it. A lot of people become cognitively dissonant and deny what they think they can't obtain; but I think because you demonstrate courage by accepting what your heart desires, you'll be rewarded if you put in the effort. There's still hope, anxiety is very disabling and painful for the person, but it's far from incurable.

You're only 24, there's still tons of time. You're not 50, you're 24! I understand that it can be hard to initiate and sustain conversation without practice, and self-doubt/anxiety can freeze you up in the situation. But I think you're an interesting person and once you gain enough social confidence, nobody will judge you negatively. If they do, who cares? Does it matter when idiots shitpost you on MAL?

Since you live in a relatively smaller community, I'm not sure if there would be any applicable meetup groups in your area. As cliched as it sounds, exposure is the best way to beat anxiety. Say "hi" to people when you're buying groceries, sit in a coffee shop instead of home with your laptop for a while, or just walk around the crowd in a shopping mall, etc. Start with the smaller things first, once you're comfortable being in close proximity with strangers then you can start trying to have conversations. It won't feel very pleasant at the beginning, but it will be worth it in the end!

Haha, I always complain about LNs and VNs not having an English translation even though I can read Chinese. The Chinese translations tend to be lower quality though, so I personally don't like reading them unless I have to. And these days I can feel my Chinese getting rustier and rustier. xD

I was born in Taiwan, but I lived in New Zealand for most of my childhood. I kind of moved around the world a lot in primary (USA, NZ, TW, China, etc) though, so that's why I didn't completely forget Chinese. A couple of years ago I moved to Australia by myself for university education. Earlier on it was really my parents' decision, but moving to Australia was my own. Since there's no undergraduate medicine course in New Zealand and my parents didn't object, I just came over. Not really sure what's going to happen after, it's kind of nice here, so I might just stay.

I'm very happy you find our conversations engaging! I'm very bad at writing about myself too, so please do ask, you'll be helping me answer it :D

Ah, so that's the real Halloween! It would be a sight for tourists (like me if I ever decide to visit), but I guess it would be slightly eerie in your shoes. Is there still a strong religious air surrounding the holidays? Or is it like Halloween where we just dress up as pirates and have fun? Speaking of Halloween, is it popular in Poland?

I guess family members can be like that sometimes. It never feels good to be in that situation, and I would expect my family to be the first to aid me, not avoid me if I'm feeling sad. If that's the reality, there's no helping it. But on the bright side, you can still make good friends, and find someone to have a trusting relationship with (maybe even start a family together)!

I guess romance series can be like that sometimes. It's a bit like watching Superman and asking yourself why you're not as strong. Fiction tends to be very idealized reality, so the events can be rather unrealistic and "perfect". I think feeling frustrated and a bit jealous is very understandable. That being said, I say work up your confidence for the next few months and give it a go! Girls love being asked out. No promises on anime tier romantic, but I promise it will be a pleasant experience (most of the time).

I have a few friends who told me stories about how they grew up without friends because they came from military families that moved around the country a lot. It can be quite difficult meeting new people in circumstances like those, and most of them told me they were quite shy coming out of it. All of them are doing very well now though, so there's hope! I think if you've settled down it will be very beneficial to find people to hang out with. I know it can be harder to meet people outside of school or common activities. I'm not sure how popular things like Meetup is where you live, but I'd say it's worth a try.

Two more weeks until Inquisition. I pray it lives up to the hype :D
Countdown to my exams too. I pray I pass :(

Welcome back. It is a local tradition? I know we had something similar when I was living in Asia. I guess I found that kind of thing tiring as well :(

Why is it negative/indifferent? Circumstances? Clash in ideology? I don't mind hearing it if you're fine with it. If it's private I won't pry.

So what are you up to now? Have to catch up on having cool things to tell me about since you missed out on those in the past few days!

As for me, I'm in cram mode, been spending time at uni with friends for most of the days. Haven't sat the exams yet, but I can feel death crawl closer.

I too love the rain...the sound of the rain is a wonderful thing...a gift one could say.

Saw your profile and thought I would pass this on to you as a token of mutual admiration for the comfort that rain brings.



Teru:
"Once the rain stops and real tears can be shed...
I will put down roots.
Until then...with the rain at my side,
I will continue to drift
like the clouds"

Mushishi Season II - Episode Seven

Absolutely loved episode seven! 10/10 ;)

I couldn't evade to read at Rev comments, curiously I have the sense of evading/relax on a windy day, so I'm from a sunny country. But about your words I thought after rain is possible to see the rainbow.

This is my hi, sorry to intrude so expontaneous.

Haha, no worries. I actually like receiving long comments. It makes my profile look prettier.

You've explained yourself very well. Hm, I once heard a quote (forgot where) that went something like this: "What's the difference between love and a crush? A crush is when you find someone perfect; but love is when you realize they aren't perfect and it doesn't matter." This is somewhat applicable here. I don't know about you, but I think most people have loved someone despite the latter's imperfections. I also want to liken your perspective to what happens to some arranged marriages. Initially, the husband and the wife are more willing to show their true colors and thus bicker. After all, they're only doing their duty and what their family expects of them. But later on, there's a possibility that they may grow to love one another when they discover the other person's charms and virtues. Dunno if this makes sense, haha.

And oh, does it rain a lot in Poland? I live in the West Coast of the US so I kind of miss rain, the smell of it and the temptation to go outside and play as it pours down lightly.