First of all, yes, a lot of you might think "Ryuji got tossed aside", "he deserved a better ending", "mah boi got robbed." Which is not true at all (from my perspective). The series was mostly about self acceptance and self love. Ryuji needed to sort himself, that was his journey in the manga. Makoto's role in his life was to make himself accept the fact that he is gay and embrace himself. Even though Makoto was his one-sided crush who rejected him, welp, lied to him and dated him to not lose his friendship and then dumped him eventually, but I think majority of the "pain in his chest" was reduced when he slowly embraced himself. Even after the rejection!! Ryuji needed to go through all the 5 stages of grief to love himself.
Makoto was his soft obsession and escape from reality and first love. And trust me, round the globe only a handful people end up with their first love of 14 years of age. most people's ideal love interest arrives at the age of 25-30, when our brains are fully developed. ALSO, yes you guys are right. Ryuji deserves better. someone MUCH MUCH better than Makoto. Ryuji deserves someone, who'd go head over heals for him from the first go. not someone he has to beg for love and attraction. not someone from who he gets mixed signals. because there are no mixed signals. either there's positive cause everything else is negative. he deserves someone like Saki, who'd fucking run after a garbage truck to get something he loves that's lost. CAUSE THAT'S LOVE. not the pathetic pity sympathy Makoto has for him.
Actually I'm so so glad Ryuji didn't end up with Makoto, more than makoto and saki ending up together, because oh my god ryuji deserves so much better than makoto. he deserves someone who loves him like saki loves makoto.
Secondly, Makoto and his seggsuality. throughout the manga author gave us numerous hints how makoto is not into men. even Ryuji said it himself, "if was makoto was born a girl, would he have liked me?" (jokes on ryuji, he wouldnt have liked makoto if he was a girl.) Also during the "dating" phase of makoto and ryuji, i cant understand how more easy and dumbified did the author had to make the chapters for everyone to realise that makoto was at all not romanticaly or seggsually attracted to Ryuji. Makoto was afraid of being left alone. after "losing"(low contact) saki, he was at a loss of standground. he basically thought, if he didnt reciprocate ryuji's feelings, then he'd leave him too. This was completely foul play on makoto's side to falsely date ryuji but that's what it was.
Also, come and fight me, but Ryuji did not love Makoto the way saki did. Ryuji loved makoto for himself. but Saki loved makoto for makoto. Saki fell in love with makoto thinking he is a girl. someone who didn't know that makoto was a man, saw him, fell in love and confessed. she fell in love with makoto's truest from, when he's crossdressing. and then when he confessed to her that he was a guy, she wasnt disappointed at all and confessed again. because she loved him for his complete existence.
the difference between ryuji and saki's love for makoto is that. Ryuji fell in love with the form of makoto that was convient for him and now that he is in love with him, he could love all his versions. but Saki fell in love with makoto to the core, with whatever he is, she was in love with him. For example, in ryujis case, imagine a guy dating a girl for jokes but eventually falling in love with her. but in sakis case, a guy falling in love breathing takingly from the first go with the same girl, whom would you want the girl to end up with. Also, Ryuji's love for Makoto was very much about ryuji. but saki's was very much about makoto.
the difference between ryuji's love for makoto and aoi's love for makoto is that, ryuji fell for how makoto "originally" looked like, the male makoto, he would 100% prefer makoto being in his male form than female, which he did voice during the time makoto suddenly dropped his feminine attire. but Aoi? she loved makoto is his truest form, she would have loved him if he was a girl, she would have loved him if he was a dude, aoi loved makoto. ryuji is a gay guy who fell in love with his childhood friend. aoi is pansegsual and she fell for makoto's soul.
remember the prom arc of the manga, where makoto just suddenly gave up wanting to dress feminine ? and everyone was like "whatever you think is right buddy" including Ryuji? well saki did not. she never accepted it, because she could look into makoto's eyes and see the pain he was hiding. she could never want him to suffer to adjust to societal expectations. she cannot see him throw away what he loves. that girl, that fkn girl saki ran after a truck in prom shoes so that she could retrieve the shoes of the one she loves. not even knowing if makoto will wear it, but with the silver lining hope that he is forcefully discarding the things he truly likes. she got the shoes, went all prince style and made makoto wear them, GAVE HIM HER DRESS and wore his suit. YOU HAVE GOT YOUR PERFECT BOYFRIEND MATERIAL IN SAKI WHY DO YOU EVEN WANT RYUJI?
and yes you could say that ryuji helped him a lot throughout his life. if someone helps you do you owe them s3x? love? romantic affair? huh? is that what help's return has to be now? help's return is gratefulness. which makoto always maintained. Makoto loves ryuji, more than he loves saki but makoto's love for ryuji is not romantic but for saki it is.
ALSO WHAT PART OF THE SERIES DID MAKE YOU THINK THAT AOI IS ARO ACE?? oh a character said they suddenly don't loved said character they loved throughout the series BOOM they must be aroace. tell me you have never met an aro ace person without telling me you have never met an aro ace person. bruh .
author spend 10 freaking chapters explaining her depression and how she believes she cannot actually have what she wants because her brain has correlated as things going her way to those things being taken away from her and therefore it was a reflex of her to think "oh i dont love makoto senpai anymore"
real aroace ppl are not like that? saki is cleary into makoto, sole reason she asked him out at chapter 1?there are beautiful aro ace representations that are actually accurate to real life aro ace ppl, lets not drag a severely depressed and coping-mechanism wrapped person into being aro ace??
if you think Aoi is aromantic, that means you did not understand her arc properly. her entire life, she was secondary to her parents. she never liked dolphins, she held onto them because thats what her father loved the most and what he thought she loved the most. aoi was like "my heart isnt beating for makoto senpai anymore" and you all thought ryuji and makoto were gonna be endgame? author played the best character development card there. Aoi's feelings for makoto didn't disappear, it was her ptsd that returned.
what ever she liked or loved throughout her life, whenever that liking got a to a huge level, it was taken away from her due to situations, so she programmed herself not to get attached to anything too much. (this is very real thing, look it up, search " Avoidant Attachment Style" or "Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) with Emotional Numbing" "Learned Helplessness" or Defense Mechanisms (e.g., Intellectualization, Dissociation, or Suppression.) so when her love for makoto became at ease, her brain got into the phase where it forcefully started making her feel numb so that she doesnt have to go through "losing makoto" even though she wouldn't, but her practised and trained brain does not know that. and this is where the manga splits and we get to see aoi's life separately from makoto.
here aoi heals, both from her dad's side and mom's. she heals and gets closure and love and protection. she reaches a stage where her brain no longer needs to block out feelings and make her numb to protect her from getting hurt, that is when the "feelings " for makoto "come back". these feelings were never ever gone to begin with just supressed. i hate how people never understand this part. mostly bc people dont focus much on aoi, mostly on makoto and ryuji.
You guys need to accept the fact that, every person who is feminine is not seggsually attracted to men. Lesbians exist, trans lesbians exist, crossdressing/nonbinary straight guys exist. they have existed throughout history. couples where both the partners are feminine exist. The fact that, since a guy is feminine representing and you automatically ship him with the guy says a lot about you than the manga's ending being shitty. there are many, many couples like makoto and saki. MANY. it was so refreshing to see a femboy-woman couple representation and the bl fans had to come and destroy it with " uwu my ryuji didnt top my makoto!! uwaa, now how can i put myself in makoto, aka a feminized man, and live my bl fantasy in my head, which is nothing like how real life mlm gay couples are. uwu noo my f3tishh. ohh noo makoto, the feminine guy, whom i was gonna embody in my head to ship with ryuji is in love with a girll nooo uwu, i cannot ship myself in my head with a girl, uwuwww" |