| Who recognises a story like this one?: At school, some guys from my class are tremendously homophobic, and they know that I'm bisexual. The always talk about that everything bad is here due the gays, and that all gay and bi guys should be murdered. At the other hand they promote bisexuality for girls, so they can have more girls at once. (Or so they think, because neither of them will ever get a girlfriend XD) And in the end they keep bugging me with their remarks. These are the type of persons I hate the most, they are so narrow minded that I sometimes have the urge to kick them in the nuts for being so rude etc. Have you guys/girls got same experiences? |
| Not me personally, but my best guy friend was being harassed right in front of me!i tried to stop the punk,to no avail.now,my friend is gone,left,and moved away. |
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| Thanks! *huggies* |
| *blushes*No prob! |
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| I have been in that situation and had more than one friend in that situation also. Unfortunately we can only control how we ourselves act/speak/think and not how others do. We can only sit back and feel sorry for those close minded people who just don't understand. My friends and I deal with the prejudice in different ways depending on the situation. If people come at us head on we try to educate them or at the very least point out that we are judging them so why do they feel the need to judge us? It's hard not being accepted for who you are by the people around you. Just remember you aren't alone :) I hoped that helped and didn't sound long winded lol |
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| Don't worry, it wasn't longwinded at all! I think that if people cross the line you should stand up for yourself, but try to ignore it as well as you can. |
| Yes, I rather find that annoying as well. Recently, in one of my discussion groups which includes people I have become friends with and not just academic associates, one guy there I had talked with no problems for some time. Then he found out I was gay and immediately stopped talking to me, and if he does or reference me now it is very unfriendly and rude. He says, he hates gays because they try to corrupt boys and are always going around trying to flirt someone who is not interested. Well, he might have had someone molest him as a child, or some other personal issues but I find his attitude very ignorant and sad. Totally has a wrong view. Sure there are some gays like that, but I believe by majority we are just like any other group. You don't see people in general bothering the guys who whistle after every girl, whether the girl likes it or not. That is considered "normal" and typical of a healthy hetero guy by some. I think either behavior patterns are disrespectful. Also, I have found there is a segment of bisexual guys who get focused on because they will basically "screw" anything just for sex, with again, no respect for the other peoples feelings or themselves, or safety. Some people then wrongly think all bisexuals are that way. Double standards all the time, very frustrating. Ironically enough, the guy I mentioned also says its okie for girls to be bisexual so yes can have a 3some with them. I think that is also dismissing the girls feelings as if their love or attachment to their same sex is not really real, and that they still need or desire a man for some reason and cant have an exclusive relationship. You know I created a poll online at Facebook titled, "Are you socially conscience?" and some of the questions addressed this similar scenario. Its not always easy to speak up, but I find that I do if necessary. That kind of thing really pisses me off. |
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| hmm well when i think about it most people know about my sexuality and seem fine with it. the people who dont like it avoid me but yeah its not the greatest feeling. most people seem to be far more open and accepting about sexuality in my opinion. u start talking about transgenderism and then u start getting the weird looks in the end its the same people who say their fine if ur a homosexual. is it just me but isnt it a bit strange? |
shylovegrisha said: Yes, I rather find that annoying as well. Recently, in one of my discussion groups which includes people I have become friends with and not just academic associates, one guy there I had talked with no problems for some time. Then he found out I was gay and immediately stopped talking to me, and if he does or reference me now it is very unfriendly and rude. He says, he hates gays because they try to corrupt boys and are always going around trying to flirt someone who is not interested. Well, he might have had someone molest him as a child, or some other personal issues but I find his attitude very ignorant and sad. Totally has a wrong view. Sure there are some gays like that, but I believe by majority we are just like any other group. You don't see people in general bothering the guys who whistle after every girl, whether the girl likes it or not. That is considered "normal" and typical of a healthy hetero guy by some. I think either behavior patterns are disrespectful. Also, I have found there is a segment of bisexual guys who get focused on because they will basically "screw" anything just for sex, with again, no respect for the other peoples feelings or themselves, or safety. Some people then wrongly think all bisexuals are that way. Double standards all the time, very frustrating. Ironically enough, the guy I mentioned also says its okie for girls to be bisexual so yes can have a 3some with them. I think that is also dismissing the girls feelings as if their love or attachment to their same sex is not really real, and that they still need or desire a man for some reason and cant have an exclusive relationship. You know I created a poll online at Facebook titled, "Are you socially conscience?" and some of the questions addressed this similar scenario. Its not always easy to speak up, but I find that I do if necessary. That kind of thing really pisses me off. i agree with you there entirely, but for some reason u cant help but think most heterosexual guys r homophobic cuz they just happen to find it creepy that another guy is hitting on them. geez havent they ever though how a gay guy would feel about a girl hitting on them? in general its just narrow-mindedness but only so much can be done to change someone's mind. but what goes around comes around in my opinion and they'll get it coming to them one way or another. though wat u said about bisexual guys is such an opinion i hear about all the time, its so fucking annoying. people have gone as far to label bisexuals and pansexuals as "despersexuals" im sure most people have heard of this. once again these people never bothered considering how they would feel in the beginning, nothing wrong with having ur opinions but unless u ever thought how the other person would feel then ur just making false assumptions based on wat everyone else thinks. but then again i think the only time 'despersexual' could be used is when someone switches between each gender as a form of rebounding. these people in my opinion r the worst, using others just to satisfy themselves, but the 'despersexual' is even worse then regular rebounding people, they go as far as to slander the name of an already look down upon group. i also agree that for some reason girls seem to have it better off when it comes to coming out. i find this unfair but it cant be helped that girls can be more mature then some guys. its a fact of life, [trust me it idiotically is, cuz if it werent my english class would have been a million times more tolerable.] im sure if anyone tried coming out to any of their girl friends they would take it more easier then they would with a guy friend. but the fact girls r usually more accepting then guys just isnt fair. like u said its almost as if her feelings were just dismissed, ive seen it happen and its not something any would want to feel. still liking a person but ignoring apart of u, its better for them to hate it openly rather then ignoring it. i actually find lesbians to be quite amazing, it means they can move away from the traditional role woman are still being labeled with today, its true a lady doesnt need a man to live her life, single, homosexual, or straight in the end she should do wat she wants and not let anyone judge it. this applies to men too, they shouldnt be judged based on manly pride just because physically they dominate the female gender, if a man loves another man he should be free to and not let pride get in the way of that. enough ranting for one night, just wanted to get some thought food out there. |
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