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Nov 8, 2019 10:04 AM
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I am Asexual. But if you were my friend IRL, you may not even know. I only tell people on a need to know base. If I am hanging around someone who has a crush on me for example. Other than that, only some of my new friends from college and 3-4 friend from my high school. So less than 5% of my friends know. If I was ever to tell my family. That wouldn't be good. My mom would be afraid that they raise me wrong. My brothers would think I am weird. My grandparents would write me out of the will. But I want that money. Maybe after they die, I will come out to my parents. They will probably want a reason to why I am not married. That being said, I am hetero romantic, so any male asexual anime watchers living in the united states of america born between the 1997 -2002. Feel free to DM me. I would love to binge watch anime with you.
Apr 26, 2020 2:18 PM

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Yes, like 4 times lmao (not 4 people but literally like 4 times to everyone). It's been a long and difficult process of understanding my identity - from being confused about bisexuality to processing being gay to now understanding my queerness and being enby. All of my friends know about me being queer and some of my immediate family such as parents, sister, and cousin. At the moment I'm really just coming to terms with being enby and what that means for me so only my closest friends know.

I think I'm fortunate enough to have supportive people around me, however, it is still tough for my parents to really wrap their heads around queerness and accept it.
Jul 2, 2020 12:44 PM

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I'm bisexual, but I lean more towards girls(I'm a girl myself). Just yesterday, I came out to my mother. My family is super religious, but luckily it didn't go as bad as I had expected. I was sort of forced to come out because my mom has this program on all the electronics in the house that is supposed to block porn sites, but it also will alert my mom of anything related to the Lgbtq+ community. I didn't know this, so I was searching up things for scholarships, and I ended up searching 'bisexual scholarships', and the program alerted my mom of it. So then she sat me down when everyone else was gone, and talked to me. She said a bunch of stuff that was still sort of homophobic while trying to convince me that it was just a phase. I tried to reassure her by telling her that even though I was attracted to girls, I leaned more towards boys, which was just a plain out lie. But I said it so that my mom wouldn't make me go to talks at church about being LGBTQ+ because I didn't want to have to deal with that again. Anyways, she said she wouldn't tell anyone else because she still believes that it's a phase that won't matter in a couple years. Sorry mom, but I'm pretty sure that it's not 'just a phase'.
Aug 21, 2020 1:34 PM
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same
Jan 30, 2021 4:57 AM

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I've come out to close friends and my siblings. I've come out to coworkers in the past, which is where my experiences are mixed (my friends and siblings all took it very well and support me). Where I am in life right now, I don't have any intention of ever coming out to my parents. Being a lesbian is a part of me that I consider very personal. The way I look at it, I don't want to share that part of myself with someone I know won't accept or respect it. I'll speak out in public or protests taking place at my school campus, however, when it comes to my personal life it becomes a lot more difficult for me. I do think this could be a temporary way of thinking for me however.
Mar 3, 2021 10:33 AM

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Only my grandparents on my mother's side don't know that I am bi, due to them being homophobic. Anyone else knows about it.
Mar 28, 2021 11:11 PM

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I had struggled for years to work up the courage. Then sometime in 2017, I kinda just snapped and came out as transgender on a public Facebook post. I literally said "life's too short and yolo, so I'm coming out as transgender". Okay maybe I worded it a bit better than that, but in hindsight, wow it was really risky. Please don't do this unless you know for sure you're going to be safe.

My parents were upset that I didn't tell them face-to-face, but if I could've done that I would've years ago. The problem I think started when I was 10-13 y/o, when my mother caught me crossdressing. At the time she seemed upset/mad, giving me the "it's just a phase" shtick. I had already gone to great lengths to keep it secret so when she forced the door open I was panicked. She and my brother are Christians, which also didn't help. That fear festered and slowly built up for years until it broke me, hence the post. At the time it honestly felt like the only way I'd ever get out.

Thankfully I'm quite lucky, my immediate and extended family accepted me. Sure it took a couple of years for them to stop openly deadnaming and misgendering me, but they got there eventually.
Mar 31, 2021 1:53 PM
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This is an old question but I might as well. I'm a transwoman. Bisexual, though I mostly date straight, cis men.

I've known I'm a girl since I was five or six, though I had no idea how to communicate that without getting shot down immediately. I stopped tried to express myself early on after being punished for playing dress up with my elder sister.

I didn't learn what being transgender was until I had mostly unmonitored access to the internet at my high school. So I almost came out all the way back in 2009, but for one misstep: I asked my closest sibling what he thought about transgender people, and he told me they were just trying to escape from their reality... so I decided he was right and strove to grow into the best man I could be!

So fast-forward 5 years to my sophomore year of college, I had a panic attack when I thought about being a man the rest of my life lol

I came out first to my closest sibling again, and he actually remembered the conversation from 5 years ago and said he's known since then. Next my mom, and she said she'd pretty much known since I was little. Similar story everywhere else, though my brothers and dad said they would never call me their sister/daughter unless I was pretty... They have no issue with it now, so that gives me some confidence lol

@EmiliAv3 I'm happy you're able to live authentically too! I wish everyone was able to safely be themselves.

Some of my family still accidentally misgenders me, but as with everything else, its a work in progress :)

@Voki Thanks for hosting! And everyone else if you read this, thanks for reading!
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veaulroisja said:

I asked my closest sibling what he thought about transgender people, and he told me they were just trying to escape from their reality... so I decided he was right and strove to grow into the best man I could be!


This. I can completely relate to this.
I could never come out as trans because my family had told me similar things. "It's just a phase." "They are doing it for attention." I had it pounded into me that I needed to marry a man and have babies. Be feminine. So I strove to be the best woman that I could be. Denying my feelings and letting dysphoria almost be the death of me.
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A few people know, mostly friends and family.

I don't tend to randomly tell people I'm a lesbian unless I want to, an impulse that comes up rarely.
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